Learn or re-discover 12 ways for families to manage and resolve conflict and promote peace:

Build a circle of relationship permeated by safety, honesty, and respect for “otherness” and discuss values that are important to each of you.

Add check-in opportunities (at dinner-time or other time regularly set aside to connect together on a human level); maintain and express interest and curiosity in each other outside of responsibility-driven roles and related communication.

Become aware of your own reactivity – and remember that each person has their own perspective and their own reactivity.

Stay mindful of and true to your values.

Address conflict in a timely fashion: Make an appointment to have uninterrupted time to talk things through. When dialoguing, let each person speak without interruption.

Open dialogue with your own feelings and needs using “I-Statements”.

Maintain respectful presence, words, tone of voice and posture. Let your love show!

Stay issue-focused, avoiding sarcasm, criticism, attacking, blaming, or shaming.

Mirror what you hear to ensure clarity and understanding. Ask if there is more. Honor each other’s strengths and show compassion toward each other’s vulnerabilities.

Set clear expectations and clarify both the positive and negative consequences of how they are addressed.

Encourage resolution of conflict at the primary levels, between the family members directly affected.

Practice mindfulness, lovingkindness, generosity of heart, humility, forgiveness and equanimity.